Supercharge Your Self Esteem

It took me years to acknowledge that I was a People Pleaser.  I am shifting away from that pattern of behavior and find great relief and satisfaction in the change.   Here I am, an independent, successful woman with a mind of my own.   How could I be a People Pleaser?   Another term to describe this pattern is compliance, and that says more to me regarding my actions.   I would consistently avoid conflict, ignore what I didn't agree with,and do lots of good deeds which would boost my worth.  I was mostly nice, except for times of exploded emotion in an attempt to deal with conflict.  I did not speak my mind even though I knew what I thought.  What I didn't know so well was what I felt, what my needs were and how to express them. The moment I discovered I was a People Pleaser was on my birthday last year.  A close friend and my husband helped me to celebrate the day.  After a leisurely brunch, I said to them, 'Wh...

We all face barriers in our life, and sometimes we wish we had a magic wand to make them disappear. We haven’t found that magic wand yet, but we have two tips for you that might help you knock down those barriers you are facing today. Tip #1: Be Self-Aware Being self-aware simply means that you can observe yourself from a non-judgmental perspective. When you are self-aware, you can catch yourself in the present moment experiencing a specific state, reaction, or feeling.   The more you are aware of your emotions, the more you start to understand yourself. For example, you might observe that you tend to be reactive when someone provides you with a suggestion on how to do something different, or you catch yourself nervously laughing at a situation that isn’t funny. When you are aware of your emotions, you have a better idea of who you are and how you tend to react in certain situations. It is also the best way to improve yourself on certain aspects that you don’t find optima...

There are many people who might come to mind when you think of someone who is ‘successful’. Maybe you think of Elon Musk. Maybe your mind turns to president Obama. Maybe you think of David Beckham. For me, two of the most impressive people in the world are Arnold Schwarzenegger and Dwayne ‘The Rock’ Johnson. Why? Because both these people are successful on nearly every measure. They are physically strong and undeniably impressive, they are charismatic and can maintain the attention of a room full of people and they are incredibly wealthy and accomplished in terms of their careers. So, the question is what you can learn from them and how you can become more like them. Let’s find out! Unstoppable Drive The thing that both The Rock and Arnold Schwarzenegger truly have in common is their unstoppable drive, determination and passion. Imagine the Rock or Arnie having a ‘bad day’. Imagine them waking up in the morning and feeling that they just can’t be bothered to get up and ma...

If you’re going to achieve everything you How can, then you need to learn to focus and to stay motivated. It is too easy for us to think of far-reaching goals and to work toward them, only to be distracted by cat videos on YouTube or by cake in the cupboard. The problem is that the body is designed to keep us alive first and foremost. The attention network in our brain turns our attention to immediate threats and potential rewards such as food and sweets. It is much more interested in keeping us alive as opposed to helping us write a book or run a business. So how do you take back control? The key is to remind your body why the things you want to do matter and to find the emotional drive that comes from that. Work is boring and it is hard for the brain to care about. But what is not boring is having a beautiful house and all the food you could possibly want. Being popular with the opposite sex and accomplishing a feeling of status and accomplishment. You need to connect th...

 

There are many different things that will both influence your confidence and also be influenced by your confidence. Confidence is often a somewhat circular subject matter and this can often make it hard to know where to start. This is the case with body language. Being confident gives you better body language. But having better body language also makes you more confident! What Does Confident Bodylanguage Look Like? Confident body language basically involves looking relaxed and calm. Many of us assume that confident body language will necessarily involve looking menacing or intimidating, but the reality is that this makes us look defensive . Likewise, attempting to look aloof or cool will simply make you look like a try hard. Remember the kids at school who smoked in their leather jackets and were just kind of tragic? Being truly confident means you have nothing to prove, it means you aren’t overly concerned what other people think and it means you’re able to relax because y...

 

Are you looking for satisfaction and fulfillment? To be satisfied and fulfilled you must do something you love to do. But it is not always easy to do that. You will find yourself drifted away from doing what you love and do other things to just make a living. You may be successful but not satisfied and your soul may be looking for something bigger to pursue. Without being clear about the reason why you are here in life you will not feel passionate about what you do and you will not experience true satisfaction and fulfillment. Everything in life has a reason for existence. Until you discover the reason for your existence you will not live a life of awakened soul. Without a purpose you will be sidetracked in your life's journey. You will drift from your right path and achieve little. You will not be able to inject passion and enthusiasm in the activities you do. Without a purpose you will loose your power in front of hard times. When you face challenges you need a...

If you don’t feel good about yourself, you have to fix it. There’s no other way around it. You can’t raise confident kids, have a healthy relationship, or get satisfaction from your job if you don’t. This comes from someone who didn’t, for most of her life, feel worthwhile. Many books come from the perspective of an expert, someone who already has a healthy sense of self-worth, which I believe immediately sets up an alienating perspective between them and us, those who “know” and the rest of us who struggle with this issue. They assume they know better. They may think they know better, and have a worthwhile plan, but we know what it is really like, we have experienced and not just judged our self-defeating behavior. We all have varying degrees of self-doubt. A person can be wildly successful in their life, and still have deep-seated feelings of worthlessness. There is a fear of discovery that others will come to see what’s behind the curtain in Oz. So we strive to accomplish ...

It would be nice to think that the companies on the leading edge of work/life balance programs are simply being good citizens and doing the right thing! But, the fact is that these programs make good business sense. In addition to increased productivity and employee satisfaction, companies can retain valuable employees in a competitive environment, and attract new employees with these programs. Every generation in the workforce today reports that work and life balance is one of the top issues for them and that they want to work in a company that supports their desire to have more balance in their life. Whatever the reason for the movement, we should be glad it is upon us. Who are the companies with programs, what do the programs look like and what results have they achieved? You might be surprised to know that these companies cut across all industries in the private and the public sector. Here are some examples of program components: Elder care programs consisting ...

When you're at home all the time, people have a way of giving you everything to do, with no regard for your job. It can be very hard indeed to keep your family life separate from your business when you work at home -- in fact, this is one of the most common reasons home businesses fail, and their owners come away all too glad to get back to the corporate grindstone. If you don't want to be driven away from home business, here's what you need to do to keep your family at bay. Work Time, Home Time. Make a schedule for when you're going to work and when you're not, and stick to it. This doesn't have to be inflexible -- it's very silly to only work nine to five every day, for example -- but it still really needs to be there. Without a plan, you're inevitably going to go too far one way or the other, and either work far too much or nowhere near enough. You might find it best to a new plan at the start of each month or week, so that you can still res...

Change is difficult for many people. Often times our whole identity is wrapped up in what we've learned as children will work for us when dealing with people, allowing us to survive, thrive and fit in. While some people have had to learn to thrive in the midst of change and learned to be adaptable by being open to new ideas and embracing change, many others have had to fight for survival and every table-scrap that came their way. Behavior is learned and it takes work to unlearn and dismantle these old beliefs. The truth of the matter is that win-win is always possible. When you are able to see beyond the ego and recognize the abundance that is available, people, minds, and ideas come together and can create amazing changes that improve the current scenarios for many, many people. When you work with people who have this abundant and generous attitude, you are uplifted, the team soars, and amazing energy and creativity is unleashed. This is much harder to do, to sustain, and ...