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3 Reasons to Stop Being a People Pleaser

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It took me years to acknowledge that I was a People Pleaser.  I am shifting away from that pattern of behavior and find great relief and satisfaction in the change.   Here I am, an independent, successful woman with a mind of my own.   How could I be a People Pleaser?   Another term to describe this pattern is compliance, and that says more to me regarding my actions.   I would consistently avoid conflict, ignore what I didn't agree with,and do lots of good deeds which would boost my worth.  I was mostly nice, except for times of exploded emotion in an attempt to deal with conflict.  I did not speak my mind even though I knew what I thought.  What I didn't know so well was what I felt, what my needs were and how to express them. The moment I discovered I was a People Pleaser was on my birthday last year.  A close friend and my husband helped me to celebrate the day.  After a leisurely brunch, I said to them, 'What would you like to do today?'  They replied that th

2 Instant Tips to Knock Down Your Barriers

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We all face barriers in our life, and sometimes we wish we had a magic wand to make them disappear. We haven’t found that magic wand yet, but we have two tips for you that might help you knock down those barriers you are facing today. Tip #1: Be Self-Aware Being self-aware simply means that you can observe yourself from a non-judgmental perspective. When you are self-aware, you can catch yourself in the present moment experiencing a specific state, reaction, or feeling.   The more you are aware of your emotions, the more you start to understand yourself. For example, you might observe that you tend to be reactive when someone provides you with a suggestion on how to do something different, or you catch yourself nervously laughing at a situation that isn’t funny. When you are aware of your emotions, you have a better idea of who you are and how you tend to react in certain situations. It is also the best way to improve yourself on certain aspects that you don’t find optimal. Y

Important Lessons You Can Learn from the Rock and Arnold Schwarzenegger

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There are many people who might come to mind when you think of someone who is ‘successful’. Maybe you think of Elon Musk. Maybe your mind turns to president Obama. Maybe you think of David Beckham. For me, two of the most impressive people in the world are Arnold Schwarzenegger and Dwayne ‘The Rock’ Johnson. Why? Because both these people are successful on nearly every measure. They are physically strong and undeniably impressive, they are charismatic and can maintain the attention of a room full of people and they are incredibly wealthy and accomplished in terms of their careers. So, the question is what you can learn from them and how you can become more like them. Let’s find out! Unstoppable Drive The thing that both The Rock and Arnold Schwarzenegger truly have in common is their unstoppable drive, determination and passion. Imagine the Rock or Arnie having a ‘bad day’. Imagine them waking up in the morning and feeling that they just can’t be bothered to get up and ma

How to Train Your Body and Mind to Focus on What Really Matters

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If you’re going to achieve everything you How can, then you need to learn to focus and to stay motivated. It is too easy for us to think of far-reaching goals and to work toward them, only to be distracted by cat videos on YouTube or by cake in the cupboard. The problem is that the body is designed to keep us alive first and foremost. The attention network in our brain turns our attention to immediate threats and potential rewards such as food and sweets. It is much more interested in keeping us alive as opposed to helping us write a book or run a business. So how do you take back control? The key is to remind your body why the things you want to do matter and to find the emotional drive that comes from that. Work is boring and it is hard for the brain to care about. But what is not boring is having a beautiful house and all the food you could possibly want. Being popular with the opposite sex and accomplishing a feeling of status and accomplishment. You need to connect th

5 Things You Must Know to Survive Narcissistic Abuse

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How to Have 100% Certainty in Your Entrepreneurial Venture

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How to Overcome Social Anxiety Easily

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